This has been rolling around in my head for the last few days, a guy named Max Lucado wrote,
There is only so much sand in the hourglass.
Who gets it?
You know what I'm talking about, don't you?
"The PTA needs a new treasurer. With your background and experience and talent and wisdom and love for kids... YOU are the perfect one for the job!"
"I apologize that I have to ask you again, but you are such a good Sunday-school teacher."
"I just lost my hygienist. Will you come back to work for me?"
It's tug-of-war, and you are the rope.
On one side are the requests for your time and energy. They call. They compliment. They are valid and good. Great opportunities to do good things. If they were evil, it'd be easy to say no. But they aren't, so it's easy to rationalize.
On the other side are the loved ones in your world. They don't write letters. They don't ask you to consult your calendar. They don't offer to pay your expenses. They don't use terms like "appointment," "engagement," or "do lunch." They don't want you for what you can do for them; they want you for who you are.
I'm intentionally scaling back my life. It's been good. No is getting easier and easier for me to say...