Friday, December 5, 2008
1. Use a calendar to prepare the child for Christmas. Things to include: holiday time from school & when school starts, days visitors will arrive, the day decorations and the Christmas tree will be put up and most importantly when and where you will open presents. Highlighting these times on the calendar will help your child prepare for the time spent away from school, and changes in routine, and home.
2. As much as possible keep a child's routine consistent. For example, if the child uses any visual communication tools, continue to use them as much as possible.
3. Include the child in preparing for Christmas. Look at Christmas decorations or trees together. Allow the child to assist in decorating or watch as decorations are put up. Allowing the child to participate in decorating may prevent negative reactions to changes in the environment.
4. Decorating can be highly stimulating and stressful. To make it easier for the child you may want to put up a few decorations each day to ease into the Christmas season.
Saturday, November 29, 2008
While out we decided to go visit our Indian friends. They own a liquor store and Thanksgiving day is always a busy one for them. When we got to the store we started to talk and enjoy each others company. After about 10 minutes one of our homeless friends walked in, saw me and gave me a hug saying, "happy Thanksgiving beautiful lady."
Just then I turned and saw my Indian friends. I can't really explain how they looked. It was a mixture of shock, surprise, dare I say disgust. At that moment I felt my cheeks get red and then my Indian friends asked, "do you know him?!" I shook my head yes feeling my face get hotter as I watched my friend buy a beer. He was unaware of what was going on and waved happily as he left...
After he walked out my friends quizzed me:
Do I give him money?
Do I let them get close to me?
Don't they bother me?
Don't I know they will spend any money I give them on beer?
I tried to answer them, but it was a one sided conversation. My friends didn't like what they saw and they didn't want to hear my answers. I tried to explain that I think God loves all men. That all men are made in God's image and no one is incapable of a new beginning, a new life, redemption.
When it was all done I think the thing that bothered me the most was that I got embarrassed. I've gotten use to smelly hugs, toothless grins, and conversations that don't always make sense. However, this is the first time I was associated with the homeless tribe and the truth is I didn't like it. I don't want to be in their tribe. I want to visit, and do good things, but I don't want to be associated with them.
The bottom line is this, its easy for me to talk about Jesus. Its much harder to live like Jesus and have His motives. When I take the time to look deeply into my heart sometimes it just stinks.
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Saturday, November 8, 2008
As usual the Glassers cut straight to the a key point of Peter Gerhart's presentation which is this:
For example, when teaching an individual how to make their bed, why drill over and over again until they make a perfect hospital style bed? In real life do any of us really do that? What a waste of time and resources. Teach them to get out in the community independently. Raise the bar! Many people on the spectrum are capable of far more than they are allowed to experience.
They have likes, dislikes, interests, listen to them and help them to achieve THEIR goals. There were many examples of this in Peter's talk. For example, he talked about helping people find jobs. One autistic man had asked to quit his restaurant job 22 TIMES! The case worker would not let him quit because she had "placed" him in a job. How would you feel if that were you? Finally, the man was allowed to quit when he had a melt down in the restaurant.
- lots of money (don't we all).
- not too many hours (don't we all).
- not to sweat.
He was in a kitchen sweating, it was loud and over stimulating. Peter worked with him to find another job that matched what he was good at, and guess what: no tantrums, a happy employer, and a happy employee. Wow, treat people as people and watch what can happen!!!
I have lots more to blog on this subject, but I want to get some feedback from you. Unfortunately, they took down Peter's slides, so we can't access them anymore. Grrrrrr....
Let me know what you think. Come on you lurking readers. Just post a comment and choose to have it posted as anonymous I want your feedback!!!
Life - Liberty - and the Pursuit of Happiness for all!!!
Saturday, November 1, 2008
We've had a ton of traffic at the National Autism Resources booth and that's been great!
I've been up since four, so I'm going to bed now. I'll blog lots more tomorrow, if I survive.
Friday, October 31, 2008
I'm excited about this conference because some of the most knowledgeable people in the country will come together to talk about helping teenagers and adults on the spectrum. We now have a whole group of kids that have responded to early intervention, but continue to need various levels of support. Its uncharted territory. The conference is sponsored by the Autism Education Network. I love the founder Michele Waterman. We've never met in person, but we've hit it off on the phone. She's an awesome Mom whose as real as they come and committed to preparing the way for her child.
I hope to blog more over the weekend. Michele says she has some exciting news to share with me. So I'm definitely taking her out to coffee! I'll need it because I have to get up at 4:00 and its almost 11:00. If you think of me pray for energy!!!
Monday, October 27, 2008
This year GA is going to be a bottle of ketchup, G is going to be Darth Vader (big surprise), and I'm going to be the chocolate eating Mom...
We found GA's costume at K-mart for $12.00! Score! GA was very happy. G on the other hand is now almost as tall as me!!! So we are making his costume and it looks excellent. We plan to trick or treat for a couple of hours and then watch the Black and White Frankenstein movie.
Then Saturday I will get up at 4:00 am for a weekend conference. Why oh why did they schedule it the day after Halloween???
That's OK, I'll rest on Monday. Oh wait, I home school, I'll rest next weekend...
Thursday, October 23, 2008
I'm glad to report that this week I have been thoroughly enjoying myself. My dear friends Gary and Katherine have given me the best gifts ever. First the new book by Rob Bell an author I thoroughly enjoy reading.
this is so awesome...
I can't believe my taste buds awesome...
They brought me back fresh roasted 100% Kona coffee from their Hawaii trip. So not only do I have wonderful friends. They are wonderful friends who know how to spoil me!!!
Bliss, sheer bliss, I've been enjoying excellent coffee all this week and disciplining myself by only reading one chapter a day.
On top of that, last Saturday my husband helped me clean the whole house, which makes the reading/drinking all the more enjoyable because I'm doing it in a clean house...
Life is good my friends, life is good!
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Thursday, October 16, 2008
We are done with our Math unit on real world math problems (word problems). G is so happy! Now we get to move onto a Geometry unit. Oh happy, happy day! G and I were so thrilled we had to do a happy dance in the living room.
It's the little things that make life wonderful!
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
I just finished reading Temple Grandin's new release The Way I See It. It was a well written and enjoyable read. Its full of very practical advice. As a matter of fact it reads like a big sister giving advice. The book is a series of articles that Temple wrote for the Autism Aspergers Digest magazine so you can easily read a chapter, put it down, and read another later without getting lost. I would highly recommend it for families supporting people with Aspergers or higher functioning autism.
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Later we saw an awesome show called:
The show was great fun. We learned about fire, how to put out a fire,
when the facilitator asked for a volunteer...
HE CHOSE G!!!
Here is G helping to light a fire! He did a great job and after helping received a round of applause. He covered his ears on his way back to his chair, but he was smiling. (Look how tall he is, he will be taller than me soon!)
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Anyhow, the other day G and I were talking about our favorite scientist Einstein. I asked G what he wanted to do when he grew up.
He replied, "I'm going to work with energy."
Then I asked, "what do you want to do with energy?"
He said, "I don't know I have to study it more first."
Have I mentioned lately I really love this kid! I love the way his brain works. I can't wait to learn about energy with him.
Monday, September 15, 2008
So I've been looking for sibling support groups, and guess what none exist. Sooooo I'm thinking of organizing one. I'm tired of starting something new. Kick, scream, cry, punch the wall... OK I got it out. I love both my kids, it will help others, and it looks like no one else is going to do it, so wish me luck! All I need to find is a facilitator I can't do it, I might start crying I'm a wimp.
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Sunday, September 7, 2008
How can this be happening? I still feel like in my heart I'm 25. Thankfully my friends only had me blow out one symbolic candle... 40 surly would have made the whip cream melt! :-P
I feel blessed I have my family, good friends, some Kona coffee and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding.
Peace be with you my friends.
Friday, September 5, 2008
I love G so much. It is such a joy to raise him, I can't imagine life without him! The older he gets the more I enjoy who he is becoming. Autism for us isn't so much a tragedy as it is a different way of being. There is nothing wrong with being different, it just means a person is not ordinary - and who really wants to be ordinary anyway.
Happy Weekend Everyone!
Friday, August 29, 2008
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Anyhow, I was glad I went. I kept an eye out for GA. She started to get lost, along w/ several other 6th graders, so I had the pleasure of intercepting them and leading them straight to the sixth grade PE teacher. Don't worry I was cool, I told them all I've been helping kids find PE all day, which was true.
At lunch GA sat down and was all alone. She looked so sad. I told one of my new lunch lady friends, "look at my daughter." I probably looked like a wreak because I felt like so sad for her. Anyhow, long story short the lunch lady asked if she knew anyone, and then found the only girl GA knows at the school. They sat together and talked and GA brightened up right away.
I know GA is growing up and there are less and less opportunities for me to be there for her. I want to be there but not suffocate her. Oh this is going to be a hard balancing act! I'm glad the first day turned out well.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
School is starting and we are going to work on independence. We are going to use a time timer to help G keep track of time visually. He will have 30 minutes to get ready. The visual of the red disc smaller is starting to help him stay on task. Of course it helps that red is is favorite color!
I also found a really cool I Can Get Ready for School Chart. It is really sturdy, and it was only $10.00. What I like is its simple one side says need to do - the other side says completed. So G can choose the order he wants to go through to get ready for school. As he finishes each task like getting dressed, brushing teeth he can just move it over to the completed side. When he is all done he gets a star for the day. We will celebrate when he gets five stars.
|I Can Do It! School Chart|
I'm getting ready for my second year of homes chool. I'm excited because I feel confident in adapting materials so G can understand them better.
This year I'm really looking forward to American History focusing on 1900-Present. I'm excited because I have found lots of videos through our library system that I will use to supplement the curriculum.
Thursday, August 14, 2008
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Monday, August 11, 2008
Monday, August 4, 2008
I don't know what I'm gonna do, but I don't want to waste my time!!!
Saturday, August 2, 2008
Sunday, July 27, 2008
- Go to the movies,
- Come home and eat pepperoni pizza (his favorite)
- Watch the new episode of iCarly,
- Eat cake and open presents
- Watch the new Monk episode.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
The votes are in and here is the winner! It was a close tie between all three, but between, e-mail and the blog in the end picture number 2 was the winner. Thank you to everyone who voted. National Autism Resources is up and running. We should be able to take orders soon... what the heck was I thinking?!
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Picture #2Picture #3
Thursday, July 10, 2008
With gas over $4.00 a gallon, I'll be drinking this for awhile...
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Please God no weird smells...
I'll be back in two weeks, the website is looking great!
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Saturday, June 7, 2008
So I had to explain to my friend that my God is jealous, I can only worship him. I could go but could not participate in the worship of any other god or teacher.
She said that was fine, so I went and observed.
When we drove up she explained that the domes were built in Italy and donated by a very rich Sikh who lives there.
When we arrived we were asked to cover our hair. When I asked if this was something her god demanded my friend replied that covering one's hair is done for modesty reasons. It would be the same as someone not wearing a bikini top to church...
I came into their main meeting room. Sikhs bow and pray to a book called the Guru Granth Sahib, not sure of the name here... They enter bow, pray and then leave an offering I saw people leave money, and another person left milk. Elderly men from their faith spend the day by their book and are available for prayer or readings of the book. When they heard it was J's birthday they uncovered the book and read it. It was in Punjabi, but instead of reading they sang the words.
After the prayers we went downstairs to another room, there is always food and tea available to eat there. So we had some wonderful Indian food and talked. I could tell my friend was so happy that I had come. She mentioned that many American people become Sikhs. At that moment I thought to myself so this is what it feels like when someone wants to convert you...
My dear friend loves me so much. She would love for me to become a Sikh, but the truth is I believe I have found the greatest teacher that ever lived, Jesus. I am so attracted to Him, I can't fathom any other way. I would love for her to meet Jesus and follow him, but for now we have chosen different ways...
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Monday, May 26, 2008
1 The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.
2 He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
3 he restores my soul.
He guides me in paths of righteousness
for his name's sake.
4 Even though I walk
through the valley of the shadow of death, [a]
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.
5 You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies.
You anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
6 Surely goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the LORD
Sunday, May 18, 2008
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
A Bishops Wife asked what does the church do? That is such a good question, I've been thinking about that... We give money to shelters or we volunteer once a month to feed the homeless. These things are good, but they are also very convenient and safe. I've done this for years and because I did I gave myself permission to ignore the homeless in my neighborhood.
This question also spurred me to contemplate what is the church. What do we mean when we say "church?" On Sunday morning many of us drive to various church buildings and worship with a group of people. However, when people say "what is the church doing" they are not referring to a building they are referring to the people in the building. I often expect the leaders and/or pastors of these groups to "do something." As I read the scriptures it is clear that God does not view the "church" as a building, but as individual people who believe in Him. Could this mean then that instead of relying on the church leaders to do something, I as an individual of the church am responsible to do more than just write a check? If so when I ask "what is the church doing???" I'm really asking what am I doing? The truth is I have not been doing anything for far too long, writing a check is easier, and I don't want to add another "thing" to my life...
Friday, May 2, 2008
Last Friday I saw her, lying in a small brick enclave where they keep garbage. I walked up to her and noticed her fingertips were blue and she looked terrible. She told me she had been in the hospital, that she has congestive heart failure, and she was released without any medication. (The hospital was nice enough to give her a Taxi ride to the local mall, a prescription list, and a list of shelters she could call....) She had no money to call and couldn't stand up. I took her prescription to the pharmacy to be filled and started calling the shelters on the list. They were full and some shelters refuse to take the sick. I called a christian shelter, the manager was gone and they had shut the doors for the night (4pm) the lady told me please call back tomorrow...
Meanwhile at the pharmacy they inform me that they can't fill KK's prescription because she needs a new card. They give me an 800# and tell me that to get a new card KK will need to give the agency her social security number. Frustrated I went back out to KK and someone had given her water and cookies while I was gone. She's poured the water over her head, asks me if I want some cookies, I look at her and I think are her lips turning blue???
I tell her I need her social security number and the problem with her card. Then she remembers the hospital told her to call. So long story short I made the call, and the agency is closed for the weekend...
I go back to KK and yes her lips are turning a tad blue. I tell her I want to call 911, but she says no. They'll just get mad at her, make her wait in the waiting room and she doesn't want to go back. Just then it hits me what would Jesus do? Do I take her in my home? Will my husband kill me if I do? (I'm thinking yes he would definitely not be happy...) Yet I can't leave her on the street so I start praying and across the lot I see her friend Ricky.
I run to him and bring him over to KK. She is so happy to see him and tells him to get a shopping cart so he can take her home. (Home is a bush with blankets under it...) I tell them both I'm worried and I want to call 911. Then KK said no, "if I die I don't want to be alone I can die with my friends." I stood there dumbfounded as Ricky loaded her into a shopping cart and wheeled her home.
I still feel unsettled about all of this.
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Outside my front door look complimentary colors. I've stared at the sky through my pine trees for hours...
I look out my window and the world is so amazing I can't accept that it all happened by chance.